Quarreling in your family,

.....quarreling in your family,

Only God Can Meet All Your Needs

One of the biggest causes of quarreling in your family, with your friends, or at your work is when you expect people to fulfill needs in your life that only God can fulfill. This happens most often in marriage, but it can happen in any relationship. Once you find people who you can trust and know you well, there’s a tendency to start looking to them to keep you emotionally and spiritually fulfilled.

It’s common for people to get married and think their spouse should (and will) meet all their needs. But that’s just unrealistic, unfair, and only sets you up for frustration. Your spouse is not God. Your best friend is not God. Your co-workers are not God. None of them know you like God does. None of them can provide for you like he can. They are broken human beings—just like you!

It’s time to change your expectations so your frustration doesn’t lead to more conflict and quarreling in your relationships.

So, what should you do instead of looking to someone else to fulfill your emotional, spiritual, and physical needs? You should pray about it.

"You don't have what you want because you don't ask God for it"(James 4:2 NLT).

When you expect other people to meet your needs instead of God, it leads to frustration. And frustration leads to quarreling. If you’re not praying about it, you're fighting over it. You don't have because you haven’t asked God for it!

If you have a need, don’t look first to your spouse or your friend to fill it. Go to God first. He already knows what you need, and he’s ready to give it to you. All you have to do is ask.

Talk It Over

• What are some of the needs you’ve been looking to your spouse to fill that have led to disappointment? What about your best friend? Your co-workers?
• What need have you wanted God to meet in your life? How have your prayers reflected your trust in him to provide for that need?
• Why do you think God wants you to pray about your need when he already knows what you need?

This devotional © 2021 by Rick Warren. All rights reserved. Used by permission. with your friends, or at your work is when you expect people to fulfill needs in your life that only God can fulfill. This happens most often in marriage, but it can happen in any relationship. Once you find people who you can trust and know you well, there’s a tendency to start looking to them to keep you emotionally and spiritually fulfilled.

It’s common for people to get married and think their spouse should (and will) meet all their needs. But that’s just unrealistic, unfair, and only sets you up for frustration. Your spouse is not God. Your best friend is not God. Your co-workers are not God. None of them know you like God does. None of them can provide for you like he can. They are broken human beings—just like you!

It’s time to change your expectations so your frustration doesn’t lead to more conflict and quarreling in your relationships.

So, what should you do instead of looking to someone else to fulfill your emotional, spiritual, and physical needs? You should pray about it.

"You don't have what you want because you don't ask God for it"(James 4:2 NLT).

When you expect other people to meet your needs instead of God, it leads to frustration. And frustration leads to quarreling. If you’re not praying about it, you're fighting over it. You don't have because you haven’t asked God for it!

If you have a need, don’t look first to your spouse or your friend to fill it. Go to God first. He already knows what you need, and he’s ready to give it to you. All you have to do is ask.